They should have the parents that God provided for them. The parents that will love and care for them unconditionally until the day they die. Family is more than color.
However, (and I'm assuming that we're comparing families that are equally God fearing, loving, safe, and nurturing) ideally, children are raised by families of their own ethnicity and culture. The reality though is that more than half of babies born in America in need of an adoptive family are of minority race and only about a quarter of adoptive families are of minority race. You can do the math. If caucasian families don't adopt minority children, minority children will not have a family. That's unacceptable to me, and scientific studies show that interracially adopted children do much better than their non-adopted peers. So we adopt children that need a home, regardless of their skin tone.
We don't believe that "we're all the same" though. There are definite differences in white, black, Filipino and African culture, food, language, style, etc... Therefore, we do go out of our way though to incorporate each child's culture and heritage in our daily lives, and to surround each child with role models of his or her race so that they can grow with strong, confident identities.
Furthermore, C.'s mom chose us. She saw our pictures, read our profile, and chose us to parent her son. Regardless of what opinion anyone else has about it, her choice should be respected.
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In the Philippines, the Intercountry Adoption Board searches for a Filipino family in country to adopt the children for six months before the child is made available to foreign families. No Filipino family was available to adopt J.
Africa, a continent that prides itself in its communal approach to meeting its citizen's needs, has reached its breaking point. Neighbors and churches are no longer able to take in any more children; they are overburdened with orphans from HIV/AIDS, war, famine and disease. Children are left to fend for themselves and orphanages are overflowing.
Our family is one that our God, who does not discriminate against race or color, put together. We celebrate our differences and love each other as the blessings we are to each other.
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1 comments:
I absolutely love this explanation. I find it interesting that we as African-Americans fought so diligently for the right to do, to have, to BE, regardless of what we "seem" physically, but we don't choose to do the same when it comes to making sure that a child is loved. I hate to hear people say that a child needs someone of their own color or ethnicity to raise them. My classes are filled with young people who were raised in those very circumstances, and now suffer the ill effects of poor parenting. My father being black didn't keep him from abandoning me now, did it? And although I was raised by my black grandmother, that didn't mean she knew what to do with my hair - she had sons!
Good parenting -- good love -- is colorless. And like water, it doesn't care where it's needed, and it doesn't ask questions. It just washes over everything, giving life to whatever it touches. God bless your family, and you and your husband for watering these beautiful seeds.
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